“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” – Steve Jobs
As Steve Jobs said it, you can either live your life for others or for yourself. And another true fact. You only have so much time on this earth so don’t use the famous 4-word phrase that I hear all frequently from my coaching clients, “I’ll do it later.”
When you fulfill other’s expectations, whether it’s doing a job that you were told that you were good at or perhaps you are good at it but don’t enjoy it, then resentments can build and before long, it will be hard to get up in the mornings and find joy in any kind of work.
The big question that you have to ask is “what would you be happy doing?” and “what is your dream job?” Also, identify what you don’t like about your current occupation. Is it merely that you don’t have the control over your work life? Do you want to call the shots? Do you feel stifled by the relationships with your managers or co-workers? If you haven’t allowed yourself to look more deeply inside yourself by asking probing questions, then it’s time to start the process.
Another important part of dropping expectations is to take responsibility for accepting the situation in the first place. By understanding the manner in which you had to please others or felt that you had no other choices at a juncture in your career, you can potentially avoid doing the same thing again in the future. By taking responsibility for your actions, you will be able to let go of the resentment of others and even see that they may have only wanted the best for you.
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